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Originally posted by ShadowMaatConsider the reverse: can the anti Sam/Pete people stomach knowing that Sam and Pete are together, even if it isn't necessarily shown? Could you (general you) live with it if Sam and Pete got married and he became a permanent part of her offscreen life? Would you consider that an ideal solution? After all, the S/J shippers wouldn't have to see it and the anti-ship (or pro-S/P) people would know they're together.
But I do know what you're getting at, Shadow. That just the 'hint' that Sam and Jack end up together is enough for you and some others. But you've been having this particular pairing -borrowing terminology- shoved down your throats for years, so I know you'd handle S/J marrying *much* better than any S/J shipper I know handling the opposite. And not to belittle your S/P shippiness, but you've had S/P ship for an extremely short amount of time in comparison to how long S/J ship's been going on. What point am I making? I guess that I think the S/J shippers deserve a shippy ending more than the S/P shippers. That's a pretty bold statement to make, and can sound rude, but that's not how I mean for it to come off as. A relationship that's been going on for less than a year -S/P- in comparison to one that's been going on for 8 years -S/J. If I were a complete newcomer to this show, and someone asked me which relationship would I want to see happily resolved, I'd say the one that's been going on the longest. 8 years is a looooong time to wait. But I guess that isn't here nor there, considering that you despise S/J ship to your very core. Me wanting them to end up together has absolutely nothing to do with any other fans desires. I'm not being selfish to me, just waiting for the outcome that's been building for 8 long years. I'm sorry some of you hate it, but that's just how I feel.
Sallysally
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Originally posted by Madeleine_WI don't like what she said, and I hope she's wrong, but me not liking it might not be enough for it not to be true
Brihana25, if you want to clarify or correct me then please do.
I did not come into this fandom to make enemies; I came into it to make friends. Within minutes of "announcing" my presence in it, I was told to take my precious Michael and just go die. My sin? Answering the question, "So, who's your favorite character?" in front of one of those militant fans - and oh, yes, there are militant fans out there. In this particular case, a Jonas fan. Of course, the ironic thing here is that I was so new that I didn't even know who "my precious Michael" was, and had never even heard of Jonas.
All I knew was that I had liked Stargate in its first season, I'd liked the one Season Five episode I'd caught on Fox one night, and I'd always liked Daniel.
Granted, it's an extreme case. And I certainly hope to God that no one else has ever received a death threat because of their favorite character... but again, I know some who have. This is not a healthy fandom by any stretch of the imagination, and I don't think that further widening the gap by completely validating one "side" or the other is going to make us any better.
I know for a fact that people can and do feel like they're personally under attack when they see something they enjoy being strenuously objected to or complained about. Something I said after TLC - about J/S the characters, not about J/S shippers - in a fit of anger ended up causing personal pain to someone I cared for very, very much, and because of me and others like me, she almost left the fandom forever. I'm so very grateful that she didn't, but she came so close to it... and it was because of me. Because of me, lashing out against something that made me unhappy, a real person ended up being hurt.
That's the kind of "power" I was talking about. I never in a million years would have imagined that I had that kind of power over anyone, but I most certainly did. We all have that power over each other, to a certain extent, and in the end, no matter how much we may try to avoid using it, most of us will. It's human nature to talk about those things that cause us either pain or happiness. That's what I did, and when I did it I abused a power that I didn't even know I had until I saw the results of it.
I never, ever want to do that again. I will not ever do that again. And I won't sit by and watch other people do it to each other either.
I hope to heck that I'm wrong, but no... when it's all over, I'm pretty certain it's going to happen too. And for some reason, knowing that I won't be around to see it doesn't make me feel any better.~bri~
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Originally posted by majorsalI guess that I think the S/J shippers deserve a shippy ending more than the S/P shippers. That's a pretty bold statement to make, and can sound rude, but that's not how I mean for it to come off as. A relationship that's been going on for less than a year -S/P- in comparison to one that's been going on for 8 years -S/J.
The old married couple may be familiar with one another's nuances, they may have a better understanding of who they are and who/what the other person is and that may lend them a great deal of ease in communication, but the newlyweds are still full of fire and excitement and paths unexplored, nuances to find and figure out, breakdowns in communication that lead to greater understanding. Newer isn't always bad. Unless you're talking about pop music.
Anyway, that's MY take on things...
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Originally posted by brihana25
No, you understood me pretty well. I don't like what I was saying, not one bit. Which is why I also said that that kind of behavior, from the fans towards each other, will most likely be the reason I'll end up leaving the fandom.
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(((((((((((bri))))))))))))
Sallysally
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Originally posted by brihana25...And I certainly hope to God that no one else has ever received a death threat because of their favorite character... but again, I know some who have. This is not a healthy fandom by any stretch of the imagination, and I don't think that further widening the gap by completely validating one "side" or the other is going to make us any better..
I can't say that I've received death threats, but I have certainly come under personal attack from a wide variety of sources for daring to like Jonas. And what saddened me even more is that when I took a stand to defend Michael Shanks in a chat room where someone was bashing him, all of the Daniel fans seemed compleley shocked that I would do such a thing. Just because I like Jonas doesn't mean I hate Daniel/MS. Granted, my enjoyment of the character- and the actor- has been severely affected by the overwhelming negativity I and other Jonas fans were subjected to, but that doesn't mean I'm going to support someone attacking Michael.
And to bring this back closer to the subject, my anti-ship attitude apparently offends some people much more deeply than I would have thought possible. I was in a situation recently when I was meeting up with a bunch of other fans, including some shippers, and... well, let's just say that until that moment, it hadn't occurred to me that I could be loathed for disliking ship. It was not a little intimidating and quite a bit depressing as well. I don't think I've ever attacked any shippers- individually or as a group- for liking ship. I try to be very careful to not generalise and to keep most of my comments directed at ship rather than at shippers and I can't imagine what I've done to generate outright hatred in someone over a difference in opinion.
I'm a big girl and I dealt with it and I can deal with it, but that doesn't mean I have to like it and I sure as hell can't understand it. Just because I'm anti-ship doesn't mean I'm the Anti-Christ. And just because I disagree with someone (or multiple someones) about ONE thing doesn't mean we'll disagree about EVERYTHING. There is more to life than one subject and it's quite possible to have civil (or frivolous) conversations without coming to blows on that one subject.
As for ship on the show, if they do resolve it in a concrete, shippy way, it will destroy the show just as thoroughly for me as a Sam/Pete ending would destroy it for (some) shippers.
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Originally posted by ShadowMaatJust because a relationship is newer doesn't make it any less real or valid and it doesn't mean that a relationship that has been going on for years is better or more deserving of attention. Obviously, you feel differently, but as far as I am personally concerned, new relationships and old relationships share equal value.
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Some people are Sam/Pete shippers to spite the Sam/Jack shippers. There's no denying that. But personally, I happen to really like Pete as a character and I like what he does for Sam.
If I were rabidly anti-S/J I wouldn't care whom she was with as long as it wasn't Jack, but there have been plenty of other possible Sam pairings over the years and Pete was the first one I really liked. Well... actually, McKay came first, but somehow Pete seemed a little more realisitc.
And there's still Luke.
No, I don't expect any of that to change your view on things, but I just wanted to offer up my own position on the matter.
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Originally posted by ShadowMaatI can't say that I've received death threats, but I have certainly come under personal attack from a wide variety of sources for daring to like Jonas.
If I behaved the way I'm "supposed" to in this fandom, I'd hate you. And I'd pick fights with Sally and shipperahoy every time I saw them, rather than talking to them. Then again, being a die-hard Genner would also mean that I'd hate all slashers and shippers, and I consider a few of them to be among my very best friends in the fandom.
And to bring this back on-topic, again (man, I have *got* to quit doing this OT thing all the time), I still think onscreen, full-frontal ship is a bad idea.
Anyway, that's how I feel about it. What do you think?~bri~
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Originally posted by majorsalLiterally everyone that's ever stated that they are into S/P just happens to be a- an anti-S/J shipper, or b- an S/J shipper that thinks shippers like myself are over emotional and are making fools of all shippers in general(stuff I've encounted on the s/j list). Point being, everyone that's said they like S/P together has some sort of agenda behind it.
I do happen to fit one of those descriptions, if not both. Yet at the same time, I honestly do like Pete. But in my case, and in most cases that I know about personally, it's more a cooincidence than a conspiracy.
Most cases. I also know some people who have said, flat out, that they ship Sam/Pete only because they despise Jack/Sam. Are those people the vast majority of S/P shippers? No. No more than the vast majority of people who don't like Jonas only dislike him because he's not Daniel. No more than the vast majority of those who *do* ship J/S do so only because they can't stand Daniel.
It's all about perceptions, yet again. A few bad apples spoil the bunch, and the fact that these people do exist - those who claim a preference for one character or pairing only to oppose another character or pairing that they vehemently oppose - does end up making every other single member of that group immediately suspect.
As someone who's recently been accused of shipping J/Sara only because I really prefer J/D (which is absolutely hilarious to anyone who knows anything about me), I can also say that it stings more than a bit to have my motivations for chosing a pairing questioned simply because of which pairing it is.
The simple fact is, I just happen to like something "different." And it's easier to assume that I'm doing it for nasty reasons than it is to just admit that, "Hey, she's different than me. That's cool."
Just like it's easier to assume that all J/S shippers automatically hate Daniel. Or that all Daniel fans automatically hate Jonas. Or that all S/P shippers automatically must be J/D slashers...~bri~
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Originally posted by majorsalthat I'm not sure who's *really* an S/P shipper. Literally everyone that's ever stated that they are into S/P just happens to be a- an anti-S/J shipper, or b- an S/J shipper that thinks shippers like myself are over emotional and are making fools of all shippers in general(stuff I've encounted on the s/j list). Point being, everyone that's said they like S/P together has some sort of agenda behind it. So with those feelings, I can't seem to trust who's really into that ship,
Sally
Sally,
I have to give you a lot of credit for being honest about your feelings without being insulting.
I would call myself a Sam/Pete shipper although I don't hold out a lot of hope.
I even wrote a fanfic--my one and only--that included the pairing.
I have to admit that I don't care for J/S ship at all for lots of reasons. But if I did, maybe I wouldn't be open to anyone else with Sam including Pete.
I have never shipped (or slashed) for anyone else on the show ever--I was always firmly in the noromo camp. (Well, maybe for Daniel/Sha're a little)
From the first scenes, I saw a chemistry between the characters that I liked and have never seen for Sam with any of the numerous love interests that they have given her over the years.
So, speaking for myself, that's why I like Sam/Pete.
I can see where you are coming from though.
JaceJace
When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind people.
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Originally posted by brihana25I think you're right - it's a very controversial thing to say. But that doesn't necessarily mean it hasn't happened.
I do happen to fit one of those descriptions, if not both. Yet at the same time, I honestly do like Pete. But in my case, and in most cases that I know about personally, it's more a cooincidence than a conspiracy.
No more than the vast majority of those who *do* ship J/S do so only because they can't stand Daniel.
As someone who's recently been accused of shipping J/Sara only because I really prefer J/D (which is absolutely hilarious to anyone who knows anything about me), I can also say that it stings more than a bit to have my motivations for chosing a pairing questioned simply because of which pairing it is.
Just like it's easier to assume that all J/S shippers automatically hate Daniel. Or that all Daniel fans automatically hate Jonas. Or that all S/P shippers automatically must be J/D slashers...
Sallysally
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Originally posted by brihana25
So in other words - you don't have any proof. Maybe someone else will happen along who will.
Since I don't post here often at all, I have zip credibility, so don't take my word for it. But if you are interested in reading for yourself what he said, you can easily do some research and find the material.
Interesting discussion on both sides.
Hubble
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Originally posted by Jace021903Sally,
I have to give you a lot of credit for being honest about your feelings without being insulting.
I would call myself a Sam/Pete shipper although I don't hold out a lot of hope.
I even wrote a fanfic--my one and only--that included the pairing.
I have to admit that I don't care for J/S ship at all for lots of reasons. But if I did, maybe I wouldn't be open to anyone else with Sam including Pete.
I have never shipped (or slashed) for anyone else on the show ever--I was always firmly in the noromo camp. (Well, maybe for Daniel/Sha're a little)
From the first scenes, I saw a chemistry between the characters that I liked and have never seen for Sam with any of the numerous love interests that they have given her over the years.
So, speaking for myself, that's why I like Sam/Pete.
I can see where you are coming from though.
Jace
Sallysally
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