Love the video Jumble. I think that's one of my favourites (apart from Sex Bomb, of course. 
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Very quick Heellloooo Wooohooos! since I have to go to work in half an hour on one of my rare afternoon things. I'm supposed to be trying to copy a DVD called "Grief In The Family" (nice subject matter, but such is my job and I really can't complain for the rewards it brings) but I can't be bothered to sort it out. Will have to wait until next week.
Rergarding Helen's grief:
That's exactly how I see it. You don't ever... ever, ever get over the death of a loved one; you just learn to incorporate your feelings for the loss into who you are now (because it changes you). And nothing goes against the natural order of things more than the death of a child. Helen's grief is so deep and so painful that she can't... she can't allow it to even be considered at times when she needs to focus on other things. it would swallow her. It's there and, yes, I am sure, there are private moments when she grieves openly, but we, as an audience don't need to see that week in and week out.
I actually liken her grief to Jack's in SG-1 over Charlie. You know he functioned - for the most part - and never let on how painful it was... but every now and then, there was something in an episode that hinted that he still carried the burden of grief deep inside. Remember in Lost City (*takes moment to fangurl one of my favourite episodes and.... oh look, who directed it again?*
) when Sam asks about the picture and if he still sees his ex? He just can't talk about that life he had. He can't! It hurts too much the be reminded.
It's a typical male reaction to "bury" feelings of loss and not acknowledge how deeply they have affected you but it's by no means only men who do that. Women do too and, in some ways I see Helen being exactly the sort of person who would deal with it in that way.
It's completely fitting that she hasn't been more open about her loss, but there have been things in S2 that she did that were not typical which hints at someone who isn't quite thinking the same way she used to. It's very subtle but it's there if you study it. Pretty awesome if you ask me!
At the same time though, I'd love to see a few little private acknowledgements here and there. I want to see that Helen - although a strong, smart and capable woman - has vulnerabilities and flaws. Flawed people - particularly emotionally flawed ones - are very attractive to me as characters. That's why I used to adore Mulder so much... has nothing to do with those sexy grey-green eyes of his... oh no no no.
And, er, did I sillyfy that enough at the end to prevent GW breakage?
Did I just make that word up?
Oh... *wibble*
*runz off to get ready for work*
) Very quick Heellloooo Wooohooos! since I have to go to work in half an hour on one of my rare afternoon things. I'm supposed to be trying to copy a DVD called "Grief In The Family" (nice subject matter, but such is my job and I really can't complain for the rewards it brings) but I can't be bothered to sort it out. Will have to wait until next week.
Rergarding Helen's grief:
Originally posted by jumble
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I'm a bit on the fence regarding the mourning/lack of mourning for Ashley thing. We saw Helen's devastation in Eulogy, and when it was touched upon in Next Tuesday the impression I got was that, yes, it'll always be there, but that she keeps it private most of the time because it's just too painful to bring it out. Look how hard it was for her to actually come right out and say to Will "Next Tuesday is Ashley's birthday. Please don't go away because I need you to be with me". And from the point of view of the show, I agree with what Cags said, too much on screen wood have been a mistake.
Just my opinion
Just my opinion
I actually liken her grief to Jack's in SG-1 over Charlie. You know he functioned - for the most part - and never let on how painful it was... but every now and then, there was something in an episode that hinted that he still carried the burden of grief deep inside. Remember in Lost City (*takes moment to fangurl one of my favourite episodes and.... oh look, who directed it again?*
) when Sam asks about the picture and if he still sees his ex? He just can't talk about that life he had. He can't! It hurts too much the be reminded. It's a typical male reaction to "bury" feelings of loss and not acknowledge how deeply they have affected you but it's by no means only men who do that. Women do too and, in some ways I see Helen being exactly the sort of person who would deal with it in that way.
It's completely fitting that she hasn't been more open about her loss, but there have been things in S2 that she did that were not typical which hints at someone who isn't quite thinking the same way she used to. It's very subtle but it's there if you study it. Pretty awesome if you ask me!
At the same time though, I'd love to see a few little private acknowledgements here and there. I want to see that Helen - although a strong, smart and capable woman - has vulnerabilities and flaws. Flawed people - particularly emotionally flawed ones - are very attractive to me as characters. That's why I used to adore Mulder so much... has nothing to do with those sexy grey-green eyes of his... oh no no no.
And, er, did I sillyfy that enough at the end to prevent GW breakage?
Did I just make that word up?
Oh... *wibble*
*runz off to get ready for work*
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