What I don't get is how Londoners can leave their coats on in the tube. They put their coat on when they leave, fair enough it's cold outside. Then they sit on the sweltering train wearing coats, and scarves... Too polite to elbow everyone while they strip down, clearly.
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostWhat I don't get is how Londoners can leave their coats on in the tube. They put their coat on when they leave, fair enough it's cold outside. Then they sit on the sweltering train wearing coats, and scarves... Too polite to elbow everyone while they strip down, clearly.
Of course they might just be too lazy to take off their coats
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I think they have adapted to leave their coats on for the duration of the trip out of convenience
I have a meeting at work in the morning, and I will be taking all of you badass inspirational GABIT women in with me. I finally had enough of my coworkers and their misogynist, homophobic, racist bull**** and reported it. Now I have a meeting to explain what had been happening and tell them what I expect them to do about it. I felt so alone when I spoke up, even the women who were on that shift stopped speaking to me, I guess because I was a grass? I don't know. Luckily I had Titta to be my sounding board, to reassure me I was doing the right thing. I will be telling my team leader that I don't want an apology from any of the culprits because it's very clear that it would be another patronising "sorry you were offended" non-apology. They will never understand how their behaviour is wrong and I'm sick of trying. What I want is to never be put in that environment again, whether that means moving me to an earlier shift where everything is more professional or by splitting up the culprits.Neep, NZBG, Eileen!
Made with love and chocolate brownies by Spacegirlnz
Pooh-Bah/Ko-Ko FTW!
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostI think they have adapted to leave their coats on for the duration of the trip out of convenience
I have a meeting at work in the morning, and I will be taking all of you badass inspirational GABIT women in with me. I finally had enough of my coworkers and their misogynist, homophobic, racist bull**** and reported it. Now I have a meeting to explain what had been happening and tell them what I expect them to do about it. I felt so alone when I spoke up, even the women who were on that shift stopped speaking to me, I guess because I was a grass? I don't know. Luckily I had Titta to be my sounding board, to reassure me I was doing the right thing. I will be telling my team leader that I don't want an apology from any of the culprits because it's very clear that it would be another patronising "sorry you were offended" non-apology. They will never understand how their behaviour is wrong and I'm sick of trying. What I want is to never be put in that environment again, whether that means moving me to an earlier shift where everything is more professional or by splitting up the culprits.sigpic
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostI think they have adapted to leave their coats on for the duration of the trip out of convenience
I have a meeting at work in the morning, and I will be taking all of you badass inspirational GABIT women in with me. I finally had enough of my coworkers and their misogynist, homophobic, racist bull**** and reported it. Now I have a meeting to explain what had been happening and tell them what I expect them to do about it. I felt so alone when I spoke up, even the women who were on that shift stopped speaking to me, I guess because I was a grass? I don't know. Luckily I had Titta to be my sounding board, to reassure me I was doing the right thing. I will be telling my team leader that I don't want an apology from any of the culprits because it's very clear that it would be another patronising "sorry you were offended" non-apology. They will never understand how their behaviour is wrong and I'm sick of trying. What I want is to never be put in that environment again, whether that means moving me to an earlier shift where everything is more professional or by splitting up the culprits.
Thanks to Pengyn, SamJackShipLover and Mala for the sig.
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostI think they have adapted to leave their coats on for the duration of the trip out of convenience
I have a meeting at work in the morning, and I will be taking all of you badass inspirational GABIT women in with me. I finally had enough of my coworkers and their misogynist, homophobic, racist bull**** and reported it. Now I have a meeting to explain what had been happening and tell them what I expect them to do about it. I felt so alone when I spoke up, even the women who were on that shift stopped speaking to me, I guess because I was a grass? I don't know. Luckily I had Titta to be my sounding board, to reassure me I was doing the right thing. I will be telling my team leader that I don't want an apology from any of the culprits because it's very clear that it would be another patronising "sorry you were offended" non-apology. They will never understand how their behaviour is wrong and I'm sick of trying. What I want is to never be put in that environment again, whether that means moving me to an earlier shift where everything is more professional or by splitting up the culprits.
*hugs*
Hope the situation turns out the best way for you.sigpicBig thanks to josi for avi and sig
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostI think they have adapted to leave their coats on for the duration of the trip out of convenience
I have a meeting at work in the morning, and I will be taking all of you badass inspirational GABIT women in with me. I finally had enough of my coworkers and their misogynist, homophobic, racist bull**** and reported it. Now I have a meeting to explain what had been happening and tell them what I expect them to do about it. I felt so alone when I spoke up, even the women who were on that shift stopped speaking to me, I guess because I was a grass? I don't know. Luckily I had Titta to be my sounding board, to reassure me I was doing the right thing. I will be telling my team leader that I don't want an apology from any of the culprits because it's very clear that it would be another patronising "sorry you were offended" non-apology. They will never understand how their behaviour is wrong and I'm sick of trying. What I want is to never be put in that environment again, whether that means moving me to an earlier shift where everything is more professional or by splitting up the culprits.
(((More huggles)))
MumseyFor details of AT10 go to http://www.gabitevents.co.uk
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostWhat I don't get is how Londoners can leave their coats on in the tube. They put their coat on when they leave, fair enough it's cold outside. Then they sit on the sweltering train wearing coats, and scarves... Too polite to elbow everyone while they strip down, clearly.
Mumsey
(who did her share of commuting in her youth)For details of AT10 go to http://www.gabitevents.co.uk
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Thanks you guys! Just what I needed to read on the way to work. I don't know why it's so much more upsetting to me that there were women involved too, maybe because I think they should know better? Because I'm sheltered by the people I choose to spend time with outside work? I just know there is no point kicking myself for not saying anything sooner. I was just too trusting that they were good people really.
I'm sitting on a half empty train in a sun dress with my jacket on the seat beside me, Mumsey!Neep, NZBG, Eileen!
Made with love and chocolate brownies by Spacegirlnz
Pooh-Bah/Ko-Ko FTW!
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostThanks you guys! Just what I needed to read on the way to work. I don't know why it's so much more upsetting to me that there were women involved too, maybe because I think they should know better? Because I'm sheltered by the people I choose to spend time with outside work? I just know there is no point kicking myself for not saying anything sooner. I was just too trusting that they were good people really.
I'm sitting on a half empty train in a sun dress with my jacket on the seat beside me, Mumsey!
I know how hard it is to be seen as the 'grass' (tattle-tale, tell-tale) and alienated by colleagues for informing superiors that policies are not being adhered to - I ignored them and let them get on with their petty issues. It still makes me uncomfortable that someone was sacked due partially to evidence I provided in a witness statement - I shouldn't as she tried to blame the incident on me. My manager and ex-deputy manager told me that when they reviewed the CCTV, it was obvious she was lying because I was - to quote my ex-deputy - 'running around like a blue-arsed-fly', whilst the other member of staff completed the transaction which was classed as gross misconduct. Most of the staff have matured now and don't treat me like a leper, others still see me as 'Eddie's grass' but I just let them go on with it.Don't get it right, get it written - Unknown, they haven't decided who said it firstIf you want something in life, you have to work for it
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Originally posted by NZNeep View PostI think they have adapted to leave their coats on for the duration of the trip out of convenience
I have a meeting at work in the morning, and I will be taking all of you badass inspirational GABIT women in with me. I finally had enough of my coworkers and their misogynist, homophobic, racist bull**** and reported it. Now I have a meeting to explain what had been happening and tell them what I expect them to do about it. I felt so alone when I spoke up, even the women who were on that shift stopped speaking to me, I guess because I was a grass? I don't know. Luckily I had Titta to be my sounding board, to reassure me I was doing the right thing. I will be telling my team leader that I don't want an apology from any of the culprits because it's very clear that it would be another patronising "sorry you were offended" non-apology. They will never understand how their behaviour is wrong and I'm sick of trying. What I want is to never be put in that environment again, whether that means moving me to an earlier shift where everything is more professional or by splitting up the culprits.
>>>SOOOO I'm delighted to hear you DID do something about your situation--makes me proud of you!
Dona (nothing like it has ever happened to me here in Seattle) I love it here!!!
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Just popping in with a message from Ames - she says to say hello to everyone and that she's still very happy to do the blue jelly/jello thing for AT7.
Of course I too pass on my howdy doodees and hope everyone has been safe and well and had a great year thus far.
My hope is to make it to AT8 should it fall around November in 2015.
Many hugs to all...missing all Gabiteers very much.
xxxx"Live Peace - Speak Kindness - Dwell in Possibility"
Hug Your Loved Ones!!
~Amanda Tapping
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Thanks for thinking of me guys, it actually went really well! Better than I could have imagined. The meeting started with my team leader telling me he was proud of me and that any resulting tension in the team was not my problem. I specifically requested no apologies because it would be fake and forced- things have been a wee bit awkward but all good. The real test will be Saturday night when the same team is on again with no supervision. I don't know what the consequences will be exactly because any disciplinary meetings/processes are confidential and no one is likely gossip about them to me! I have also found one really good ally on the team, he has kept me sane.
A few hours before it all kicked off I just happened to read a quote on tumblr- I would much rather be the “obnoxious feminist girl” than be complicit in my own dehumanization, thanks.
Well, yes.Neep, NZBG, Eileen!
Made with love and chocolate brownies by Spacegirlnz
Pooh-Bah/Ko-Ko FTW!
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