MEMBERS helping MEMBERS: General Help and Assistance Thread

[LT. COL. John Sheppard]

thanks then just change it for pics i don't want re-sized?

[Nolamom]

I suppose so - just don't forget to change it back!

[LT. COL. John Sheppard]

i won't thanks to btw

[LT. COL. John Sheppard]

i have 2000 posts but can't get a Custom Avi why?

[Whytewytch]

i have 2000 posts but can't get a Custom Avi why?

I didn't get mine right away, either. Give it a day and then try again--that worked for me.

[LT. COL. John Sheppard]

*whimpers* can't wait

[Whytewytch]

I know, hunny bunny. I felt the same way. Wanted my custom avi on post 2001.

[LT. COL. John Sheppard]

2001

a space odyssey

[fems]

After I'd posted my 2001st post I couldn't get my custom avi either, but when I returned to the forum a few hours later the option was there. Just had to be processed, I guess.

[Whytewytch]

a space odyssey

It's morning here. I'll need more coffee before spotting those things.

[LT. COL. John Sheppard]

oyi *facepalm*

[Dean Grr]

I thought I would ask experienced posters and mods about arrogance in posting. If I make strong assertions I deserve what I get, but is there a kind of culture to these forums, an unwritten rule about opinions? We're from all parts of the world, all ages, genders, jobs, etc, and I've seen serious threads and not-so serious threads, politeness to angry rants.

The thread in question was where I voiced sarcastic disapproval of Syfy in Off Topic Chatter. I suppose I thought there was more resentment to Syfy, which is the source of Stargate, but no longer seems to nuture scifi shows (in my mind). Perhaps I'm being both arrogant and too sensitive (an oxy -moron?) .

It probably comes down to this: we're talking about shows, characters, actors, etc that are dear to people's hearts, so any assertion I make is going to have someone up in arms. Perhaps, I should add a disclaimer to my posts like "furious debate wanted" or "dripping with sarcasm, read at your own risk", so readers know what they're in for. I also have met a few sarcastic posters that nearly killed one of my threads, and I try not to go that far. Perhaps, like a certain Avenger, some posters (including me) need to learn to play together . - Dean

p.s. I'll add that I look at the forum as a place to experiment, sometimes offering topics or ideas that I would not in real conversation, unless with a friend.

[Nolamom]

Normally opinions are prefaced with IMO or IMHO (in my opinion, in my humble opinion), particularly when it's a strong one. I'm not quite certain, do you *want* to come off as arrogant? And yes, you can certainly say that you are intentionally starting a debate (note, debate, not argument).

You say that you look at forums as a place to bring up things that you wouldn't except with friends. Remember that you have NO facial expressions or voice inflections in a typed format to let people know nuances of your meaning. Unless you are exceptionally gifted at writing (and even then, it doesn't help all the time) you are bound to give people the wrong impression with your words at some point. People around here do have strong opinions - and share them often. Visit a political discussion thread or a religion thread and read a few pages and you'll get what I mean. BUT - being polite goes a very long way in the virtual world, just as it does in the real world.

[Thunderstorm]

Also, I would add that while you are new, the opinons/thoughts you are expressing are not new.

Making fun of Syfy, thier treatment of science fiction, wrestling. etc have all been commented on many times. What may come off as arrogant to other fans may be that you think your thoughts are something new. What you may think as arrogance from other fans may be their posts in response expressing (paraphrase) - 'Oh brother someone's bringing up this topic again, hasn't this been done to death' and then possibly making fun of your post.

[Nolamom]

Yes, Thunderstorm has a good point. I replied before I had seen your thread, based solely on your post in this one. I wouldn't worry overly much about it.