Sometimes, unpopular rules need to be enforced.
In Los Angeles people are not permitted to drive a vehicle and talk on a cell phone at the same time. What about them? If an emergency comes up and they are caught in traffic in the middle lane, unable to pull over, then what? All of these ideas are subjective and and are up for debate. No one is right or wrong in these discussions. However, at the same time, we are also far too complacent as a society in what we allow other people to "get away with". Most of us would rather fume in silence then to "correct' those people who follow the "me first" policy. I, for one, do not sit in silence. If someone is being annoying, I assume they just don't realize that they are, and I politely let them know. I'm not attempting to be authoritarian or see myself as the police of social norms. I do know what is considered offensive to the majority, however.
The main point for me is that there are far too many "me first" people out there who don't give a fig about bothering other people, interfering with equipment or following the rules. The last convention I went to was not as much fun as it could have been because a couple of "Drama Queens" decided they needed lots of attention from the Celebrities in attendance. The two women not only irritated many of the other fans, but the talent as well.
The main point for me is that there are far too many "me first" people out there who don't give a fig about bothering other people, interfering with equipment or following the rules. The last convention I went to was not as much fun as it could have been because a couple of "Drama Queens" decided they needed lots of attention from the Celebrities in attendance. The two women not only irritated many of the other fans, but the talent as well.
Discodiva has said it best -- "basic ettiquette is seen by people in differing ways." The way I see it is that those who accuse others of behaving in a "me first" policy has reverted and made it about them. When you perceive someone to be thinking of only themselves and you feel it is your right to let them know how they have annoyed or irritated you, then you've made it about you. Your comfort was infringed upon so you let them know that. Every situtation is different and you have to weigh in your mind whether it's worth taking action or to just let it go. And is taking action worth probably getting the other person upset and getting beaten up over? Not everyone likes being told that they did something wrong even if you spoke to them in the most polite way possible.
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Ha ha...funny!!! I don't think anyone was LITERALLY counting...it was obviously a slight exaggeration...lets not get too picky please...for the sake of some peace!!!
Ha ha...funny!!! I don't think anyone was LITERALLY counting...it was obviously a slight exaggeration...lets not get too picky please...for the sake of some peace!!!
Discodiva: As for Convention annoyances - well, like AG said, people who behave in an obnoxious "me, me, me" manner are just as annoying as the beep from a mobile phone...as are those, to me anyway, people who insist on constantly standing up in their seat to take photos or surreptiously raising themselves higher (usually with a bloody great flash attached) with no thought for the people behind them.....also extremely annoying are those who "whoop and holler" or constantly talk throughout the talents' panel or cabaret "turn" - I still haven't worked out why those "miaows" were needed either.
I guess that basic ettiquette is seen by people in differing ways.....I'm old and was taught old fashioned (or should that be "out of fashion" nowadays ..) manners many years ago, my son although young, has learned from me and when he attended the 2006 Vancouver Con he was astonished as some of the "rudeness" he encountered from those much older than he and who should know better.....
I doubt you'll ever get through to those who are single minded enough to think that a Convention is all about their "needs" and no-one elses....you have a choice, grin and bear it as best as possible, complain to the organisers (but make sure you get your facts absolutely right) or thump the offender square on the nose!.........OK disregard that last one - although a few times I've felt like doing it....
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