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    Default Convention Etiquette: Discussion and Advice on Do's and Don'ts

    It's come to the attention of many Forum dwellers that this particular thread might be a good idea. I apologize if there's already a similar thread, but with searches disabled trying to find one was a nightmare!

    Anyway, as many of us plan on attending conventions in the near future, and many of us are old pros at it, and many more may have questions, here we go!

    A link, first off, dug up by dear Seshat:

    AerynScully's Dos & Dont's

    And a few points of my own:

    A con is a memorable experience. I've heard many stories and seen many pictures. I've got my ticket for Vancouver 2006. And many fans go hoping to take an amazing experience home from it. The mere thought of meeting the stars of my favorite shows gives me butterflies, and it's still months and months away! And there is always the temptation to do something that will make YOU memorable to them, among the HUNDREDS of people they meet EVERY WEEKEND. Sometimes it happens. But usually it's NOT contrived. It's spontaneous. And just TRYING to be the one fan they remember can have disastrous results, making you look like, well, an idiot in front of your fellow con-goers, and leaving a bad taste in pretty much everyone's mouths.

    A con is not just about the stars, it's also about the fans. For some of us it's the only chance we'll ever get to see other Gateworlders face to face. Don't forget to revel in the entire experience. Enjoy the people you're with. Chances are they're the only ones who TRULY understand your Stargate obsession.

    And those stars are people too. Have respect for their private lives and their personal space. Try and come up with original questions for them! I can only imagine how dull it must be to answer the same ones over and over. If you can't come up with anything...make room in the line for someone else who might, and sit back and enjoy the show.

    Well, I guess that's about all I have at the moment. Anyone else? Feel free to chime in!

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    It's a good list. I'll add one (if it was on the list and I missed it, then sorry!)

    Find out before you go what items may be given to the guests to sign. Some cons will allow you to get anything signed. Others insist on only official items - no photos unless they have the studio logo on them, no manips, and no artwork.

    Madeleine

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    Default Re: Convention Ettiquette: Discussion and Advice on Do's and Don'ts

    Wow... as a newbie to the whole con...er, thing, I have found this really interesting - Very glad I have read it...

    But as for this bit "6. Under no circumstances in a public area, should a body part that is normally covered in polite company, be offered to a married actor to be autographed." People actually DO that !??!!?!? yuk
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    Default Re: Convention Ettiquette: Discussion and Advice on Do's and Don'ts

    Quote Originally Posted by Kookaburra
    But as for this bit "6. Under no circumstances in a public area, should a body part that is normally covered in polite company, be offered to a married actor to be autographed." People actually DO that !??!!?!? yuk
    Don't ask...

    http://www.pink-khaki.net/6/editorial06.html

    And on the subject of preparing for a con:
    http://www.pink-khaki.net/dollup.html

    We used to have a thread with more useful tips but I have no idea where it's buried, sorry!

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    Thanks for the info guys
    gumboYaYa: you are all beautiful, your words and openness are what make that shine. don't forget how much talent love and beauty you all have. so for now, peace love love love more love and happy, and thank you, thank you, thank you
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kookaburra
    Wow... as a newbie to the whole con...er, thing, I have found this really interesting - Very glad I have read it...

    But as for this bit "6. Under no circumstances in a public area, should a body part that is normally covered in polite company, be offered to a married actor to be autographed." People actually DO that !??!!?!? yuk
    oh yeah.

    one of the reasons actors usualy have security isn't always because the con organizers, or sometimes mgm, fears physical harm (although at the heights of the season six mess, mgm DID actually fear that passionate fans would be unable to separate actors from their characters and did insiste upon some very in your face security), it's also to protect the actor from well meaning and enthusiastic fans who might attempt something....off color.

    most fans are respectful and polite, however a few do get 'fan boy/girl fever' and turn into tush kissing syncophants who will do anything and everything to get close to their desired actor. and some of them will take a polite 'it's nice to see you' and mentally turn that into an invitation for some more personal contact

    one thing to remember is that, while i am sure that they do enjoy meeting their fans, a con is just a gig to an actor. s/he has contracturally obligated lengths of time to spend or things to do. it's a job to them and if they want to get paid by the con organizers, they need to fulfill that contract

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skydiver
    most fans are respectful and polite, however a few do get 'fan boy/girl fever' and turn into tush kissing syncophants who will do anything and everything to get close to their desired actor. and some of them will take a polite 'it's nice to see you' and mentally turn that into an invitation for some more personal contact
    *cant stop laughing*
    gumboYaYa: you are all beautiful, your words and openness are what make that shine. don't forget how much talent love and beauty you all have. so for now, peace love love love more love and happy, and thank you, thank you, thank you
    love Torri

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    I'd like to add a few don'ts to this list and a few do's. Mine are to do with the Q&As

    A Q&A session is where the actor is on stage and the audience asks questions. There might be a microphone handed around, or more usually, a microphone to the side or in the middle that people queue behind to ask questions.

    1. Do ask a question. Don't be shy or embarrased! So what if you're worried that people might think your question is daft - chances are they won't (see below though first!). Just get up there and do it, it is part of the con experience.

    2. When you ask your question, don't give a lengthy preamble. Just get to the point. If you really feel you want to thank them for attending or say you think they're a great actor then keep it short. Remember there are other people waiting to ask their question and usually the time is limited.

    3. Please don't use the Q&A as a chance to put forward your point of view on the show. In other words, the sort of thing you'd put on a forum. Remember it is a Q&A - you should be asking a question.

    4. Kids are great and we love having them at cons, and I especially love it when they ask questions as it often gets the guests to open up in a way they wouldn't normally. That said, please don't push your kids at the guests constantly or push them on the stage, or use them to get around the 'no giving gifts to guests' rule. That's not fair on everyone else.

    5. Fainting just as a guest walks past is a bit too convenient, so is fainting in a Q&A. If you're really that unwell or that prone to fainting you should either reconsider going to an event like a con, or you should arrange to have a friend or steward on hand to help you discretely. A lot of people who go to cons have health issues, often quite severe, and they make sure they have made provisions for just this sort of thing.

    6. Remember to call the guest by their name, not the characters name! It is an easy slip up to make, especially if you're nervous, so don't let it faze you. If it happens, then just smile, aplogise and carry on - just so the guest knows that you know the difference!

    7. If for any reason the guest calls you onstage, say if it is your birthday, then please leave once your moment in the limelight is gone. I've been to quite a few cons where the person or persons have simply stayed onstage. The guest is usually too polite to tell them to leave, and may have even backed themselves in a corner by asking the person if 'they'd like to go back to their seat'. Let me translate that last sentance - what the guest is actually saying is 'please go back to your seat now'. It isn't fair on the rest of the con goers - they've come to watch the guest on stage, not you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by qasimjavid
    *cant stop laughing*
    you can laugh, but i lost count of the number of times i saw fans hand the actors little slips of paper with room/phone numbers on them

    also, when you're giving the actor something, use some common sense. what i'm speaking about is photos. would you like to see a picture of yourself maniped to be kissing your best friend? or your head on a naked body of another person?

    just because you're a fan of a certain pairing, a con is no place to try and get the actor's 'approval' or 'blessing' on your preferences.

    not only is handing them pictures like that a potential to insult the actor, it could get you kicked out of the con should the actor be in the mood

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kookaburra View Post
    Wow... as a newbie to the whole con...er, thing, I have found this really interesting - Very glad I have read it...

    But as for this bit "6. Under no circumstances in a public area, should a body part that is normally covered in polite company, be offered to a married actor to be autographed." People actually DO that !??!!?!? yuk
    I'll be going to my first convention in August so I'm glad I found this thread.
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    I was a con with Dirk Benedict and I was witin about 8 feet of him and I started quoting the A-Team by saying "Face, we need to take a flight so we need to tackle BA and knock him out!"

    He sorta backed away slowly.

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    1 Go to have a good time.
    2 Go to enjoy the actors talk about their work (maybe life) in and outside of work.
    3 Go to enjoy other people of a like mind. It is 3-4 days of multi track action no matter who is organizing the convention.
    4 Did I say Go to have a good time? Take breaks when you need it. Too much of any con and you burn out. Search out #3 and you will find others needing a break. While not advocating Caffeine/Smoking … they do offer some stress reduction to those who imbibe.
    5 Don’t hate the front of the queue etiquette at some shows ... for those who honestly need it. It could be you, as I have pointed out to a few people grousing at me, the grunt.
    6 Children should be respectful, in everyway possible. They are after all, a refection of you. Using the child as a shell, only makes you look like a stage parent.
    7 Complain when it is warranted. Perhaps complain is too strong a word to some, or, perhaps not strong enough. But do inform the organizers when you having a problem so they know and can correct it there. Don’t post three weeks later when you’re really mad about missing that autograph session. Many organizers provide a method of getting missed opportunities correct quickly at the convention.
    8 Did I say have a good time?
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    Wholeheartedly agree with #1, and 8!!!

    Also with #7: contrary to public opinion con organizers do NOT know what's going on at any given time in any place of the convention! If there is something wrong then let them know - politely! Don't come whining and crying weeks after the fact!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Feli
    Wholeheartedly agree with #1, and 8!!!

    Also with #7: contrary to public opinion con organizers do NOT know what's going on at any given time in any place of the convention! If there is something wrong then let them know - politely! Don't come whining and crying weeks after the fact!
    yep. they can't fix it if they don't know it's broke.

    Also, cons are notorious for long days and short nights and, usually, by sunday folks are getting tired and cranky. From the POV of someone who got screamed at more than once, bear this in mind when something happens.

    At the end of the day, it's a con, not brain surgery. No one dies - usually

    Keep it in perspective.

    A con is to be fun, not a contest. There's no first prize for whomever collects the most autos or snaps pics of the most actors.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skydiver
    At the end of the day, it's a con, not brain surgery. No one dies - usually
    *grumbles*

    Tell that to my body, it's currently trying to break the record for the longest suffering from a case of con crud! While I still have ways to go to reach Mumsey's 3 months from last year, I've already started the second round of antibiotics...

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    [QUOTE=Jillybiehn]It's come to the attention of many Forum dwellers that this particular thread might be a good idea. I apologize if there's already a similar thread, but with searches disabled trying to find one was a nightmare!

    Anyway, as many of us plan on attending conventions in the near future, and many of us are old pros at it, and many more may have questions, here we go!

    A link, first off, dug up by dear Seshat:

    AerynScully's Dos & Dont's

    QUOTE]

    Ok I read the list. While there are few good points made IMHO the majority of it is nothing more than a pretentious load of sour-grapes disguised as 'helpful hints'.

    My advice would be to ask any convention organizer whose convention you are going to attend what their do's and don't' list is. Or make note of things you read about in convention reports that come from the actors themselves about what makes them uncomfortable.

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    Sour grapes? Pretentious? Wow that's uncanny, you've got me exactly. It's like you're in my mind

    However, you do raise a good point in that this thread perhaps should be about what people should expect at a con, and how not to make a faux pa, rather than Our Pet Peeves about Cons.

    Consider it taken on board like so much of your good advice.


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    things you shoudl expect at a con

    crowds

    people from different countries and thus, some will not speak your language. also, because they're from different countries their clothing/hygiene/eating
    habits will be different from yours

    a chance to see the actors. Notice, i didn't say meet because a lot of con goers may not meet the actors. If it's in the actor's contract s/he may be doing photos/autos...or they may simply be on stage speaking.

    a chance to have your photo taken with an actor or to get his/her auto.

    When you do this, it would be good to remember that you are one of a crowd. your photo is one of several hundred s/he might be taking that day and everyone behind you wants their photo too. Same with the autograph. Being mindful of others and not 'hogging' the actor is a good thing

    you may wish to give the actor a gift or token, but two things...first of all you wont' be the only one, they will have to lug all that stuff home and also, due to security concerns, your gift may either be refused at the organizer level or you may have to give it to someone else who screens it before the actor gets it.

    Con Time is a reality and a schedule is often nothing more than a guideline.

    go prepared to have fun. keep things in perspective and remember to treat others like you would want to be treated. And you will also have to have a healthy dose of tolerance for those others who don't think the rules apply to them, that they're special and 'better' than you....cause there are some in every crowd.

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    "Con Time is a reality and a schedule is often nothing more than a guideline."

    LOL truer words were never spoken! Now that is a helpful insight

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skydiver
    also, because they're from different countries their clothing/hygiene/eating
    habits will be different from yours
    In my experience, hygiene and clothing have nothing to do with nationality, but rather with common sense. There may be the occasional individual who doesn't change clothes or who doesn't shower for three days, but they can be American, British, French, German, Russian or any other nationality. It's not like people from a certain country are "dirtier" than others.
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