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    [QUOTE=Army-Wife]I wanted to respond to this as I am just getting over the Chicago Con which was my first SG1 con and I have to say that the volunteers who worked this con were absolutely great! QUOTE]

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    Happy to hear your first virgin con was fun. I hope we can see you again. And since Chicago is part of 2006 tour (along with NYC,Burbank and Vancouver) I know you'll be there.

    And the SG-Command.com group of customed volunteers deserve a big hand for being there to help with set-up and break down, along with their duties during the weekend. As they say, an Army matches on its feet, cons really run by the efforts of volunteers. I know I thank them each time, some get goody bags who have saved my bacon during the con.
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    [QUOTE=Jillybiehn]It's come to the attention of many Forum dwellers that this particular thread might be a good idea. I apologize if there's already a similar thread, but with searches disabled trying to find one was a nightmare!

    Anyway, as many of us plan on attending conventions in the near future, and many of us are old pros at it, and many more may have questions, here we go!

    A link, first off, dug up by dear Seshat:

    AerynScully's Dos & Dont's

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    Ok I read the list. While there are few good points made IMHO the majority of it is nothing more than a pretentious load of sour-grapes disguised as 'helpful hints'.

    My advice would be to ask any convention organizer whose convention you are going to attend what their do's and don't' list is. Or make note of things you read about in convention reports that come from the actors themselves about what makes them uncomfortable.

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    Sour grapes? Pretentious? Wow that's uncanny, you've got me exactly. It's like you're in my mind

    However, you do raise a good point in that this thread perhaps should be about what people should expect at a con, and how not to make a faux pa, rather than Our Pet Peeves about Cons.

    Consider it taken on board like so much of your good advice.


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    things you shoudl expect at a con

    crowds

    people from different countries and thus, some will not speak your language. also, because they're from different countries their clothing/hygiene/eating
    habits will be different from yours

    a chance to see the actors. Notice, i didn't say meet because a lot of con goers may not meet the actors. If it's in the actor's contract s/he may be doing photos/autos...or they may simply be on stage speaking.

    a chance to have your photo taken with an actor or to get his/her auto.

    When you do this, it would be good to remember that you are one of a crowd. your photo is one of several hundred s/he might be taking that day and everyone behind you wants their photo too. Same with the autograph. Being mindful of others and not 'hogging' the actor is a good thing

    you may wish to give the actor a gift or token, but two things...first of all you wont' be the only one, they will have to lug all that stuff home and also, due to security concerns, your gift may either be refused at the organizer level or you may have to give it to someone else who screens it before the actor gets it.

    Con Time is a reality and a schedule is often nothing more than a guideline.

    go prepared to have fun. keep things in perspective and remember to treat others like you would want to be treated. And you will also have to have a healthy dose of tolerance for those others who don't think the rules apply to them, that they're special and 'better' than you....cause there are some in every crowd.

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    "Sour grapes? Pretentious? Wow that's uncanny, you've got me exactly. It's like you're in my mind

    However, you do raise a good point in that this thread perhaps should be about what people should expect at a con, and how not to make a faux pa, rather than Our Pet Peeves about Cons. Consider it taken on board like so much of your good advice."

    I was commenting on the list that was linked to in the very first post. I thought this was a topic to discuss that list and give thoughts and opinons on it. I am sorry you took my response to that so personally. I was not aware that I could not have an opinion on something or information linked to from another site, especially when there appeared as if there was a topic set up to specificly discuss that information and give honest views and thoughts about it. I was not aware that the invitation to discuss this convention do/don't list did not include voicing a negative reaction to it.

    I was not commenting about anything anyone said in the thread about conventions or their personal experiences or peeves or suggestions. My coments were not a personal remark about the person who posted the link either.

    I was only commenting on the do's and don'ts list itself which a link to was posted here and along with an invitation to discuss it (no actual content of that list was posted directly to this forum in the post I was responding to). If you are one of the contributors to that list, then maybe you could identify yourself as such so I can better understand why you took my comments so personally.

    Regarding that list:
    Pardon me if I think it is pretentious for someone to assume to speak for the actors in regards to what they will or will not be offended by in regards to a fan's mode of dress, self expression or questions asked. Unless the list makers can show me a direct communication from the actors to them about which of these things they do or do not take offense to, then the list makers projecting these things onto the actors and 'speaking for them' is not only arrogent, but extremely unfair to the actor and the other fans.

    Pardon me if I see the potential for an awkward or hurtful situation to be created for the actors and any fan who feels they have personally offended that actor based on the pretentious do's and don'ts set down in it. The actors themselves are perfectly capable for setting down rules and guidelines for interaction with them at conventions. They have convention reps and minders to assist them in dealing with any situation that comes up that might be inappropriate for them. They have the right to decide for themselves what is ok to ask them or how they want to react to how a fan is dressed or a gift is given. Unless otherwise specified, fans should not be making these decisions for them or for other fans.

    Projecting personal dislikes of convention behavior onto the actors is not helpful IMHO.

    That is what I found pretentious and to be sourgrapes in the list that was linked to from another site. My comments were about that list, not about anything anyone said in this thread about conventions or experiences with them.
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    "Con Time is a reality and a schedule is often nothing more than a guideline."

    LOL truer words were never spoken! Now that is a helpful insight

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    Quote Originally Posted by GateAngel
    The actors themselves are perfectly capable for setting down rules and guidelines for interaction with them at conventions. They have convention reps and minders to assist them in dealing with any situation that comes up that might be inappropriate for them. They have the right to decide for themselves what is ok to ask them or how they want to react to how a fan is dressed or a gift is given. Unless otherwise specified, fans should not be making these decisions for them or for other fans.
    I don't think the actors *are* perfectly capable of setting down rules at cons. If they were then there wouldn't be the horror stories about actors being upset by fans groping them / propositioning them / handing them 'adult' manips to sign / booing them when they come onstage / booing them when they like something the fans don't like...

    They can't prevent fans doing these things and they may be too nonplussed to speak out at the time. Not all guests have minders, only the big names, and the con organisers can't have eyes everywhere or the prescience to spot the looney fans before they strike. How can it not be a good thing to share advice that may lessen the chances of that sort of thing happenning?

    And it is advice, it isn't a law. And of course some people are going to disagree - for instance there may be people who think that it's fine for every question-asker to request a hug and come up onstage to hand over the cardie that they've knitted for the guest's new sprog... and reading the advice in the link won't prevent anyone from doing that; but it's a fact that it does annoy lots of people and reading the link might enable fans to make an informed decision about how they behave at cons, and how their behaviour is likely to affect other fans.

    I know that old hands such as yourself know the con circuit back to front, but not all of us are like that. If someone had shown me this stuff years ago I might have been bolder and started going to cons sooner.

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    Marla I'm shocked and perplexed that you took my post as an attack on you. What have I ever done in the past to make you think that I'd do that? If you go back and read it you'll see a smiley face (ommitted from your quote in your post). I was joking about with you. If I'd seriously thought you were actually addressing me I'd have modded you for that - as you know we have a rule about that.


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    Quote Originally Posted by GateAngel
    I was not commenting about anything anyone said in the thread about conventions or their personal experiences or peeves or suggestions. My coments were not a personal remark about the person who posted the link either.
    Got that. And I have thick enough skin from playing Post-Nazi in the Hussy thread anyway.

    I was only commenting on the do's and don'ts list itself which a link to was posted here and along with an invitation to discuss it (no actual content of that list was posted directly to this forum in the post I was responding to). If you are one of the contributors to that list, then maybe you could identify yourself as such so I can better understand why you took my comments so personally.
    I only posted that link because it was one of the few examples I could find that was CLOSE to the topic I wanted to discuss. This thread is for those things that I listed. Asking questions, ADVICE on dos & don'ts, and discussion of proper behavior in general. What may seem like "sour grapes" to you may actually be darn good advice for some of the more, um, die-hard fans out there. But the link wasn't supposed to be the main topic of discussion for the thread. Only an icebreaker.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jillybiehn
    But the link wasn't supposed to be the main topic of discussion for the thread. Only an icebreaker.
    Actually, the rules aren't really for die-hard fans, but face it, obsessive fans. The ones who live 24/7 for their idol. It's the same in any situation: music, sports, actors. There are whacky fans out there who think because they know everything about Actor A, then of course Actor A will welcome them with open arms. We've all seen 'em at cons, I'm sure, and online

    I still chortle over gifts given to actors. Many fans don't think that a) the actor has to drag this junk home with them, b) they have no idea what it is, c) it's a health hazard[1), or d) they just don't want it.

    [1] I was minder for an actor at a con back in the 90s and people gave him homebaked food. He looked at me and said 'i'm not eating it. can you taste it?" I said "are you insane?"

    I can see some gifts - hand-made items that are small and easy to store - but the best gift is telling them you like their work and if you feel you must give them something, donate money to a charity of their choice in their name.

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    "I only posted that link because it was one of the few examples I could find that was CLOSE to the topic I wanted to discuss. This thread is for those things that I listed. Asking questions, ADVICE on dos & don'ts, and discussion of proper behavior in general. What may seem like "sour grapes" to you may actually be darn good advice for some of the more, um, die-hard fans out there. But the link wasn't supposed to be the main topic of discussion for the thread. Only an icebreaker."

    That was my confusion then. However I still want to make it clear I was only commenting on the content of the list. My comments never meant that anyone's posted comments in this thread was pretentious or sour grapes. All I was saying that about was certain things in that list that bothered me and only that list. I hope that this is understood by anyone I might have offended.

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    Marla I'm shocked and perplexed that you took my post as an attack on you. What have I ever done in the past to make you think that I'd do that? If you go back and read it you'll see a smiley face (ommitted from your quote in your post). I was joking about with you. If I'd seriously thought you were actually addressing me I'd have modded you for that - as you know we have a rule about that.
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    I think that misunderstandings abounded in this instance and not all comments to you in my response were to something you said to me on the forum.

    For the record, my opinion about certain things being pretentious and sourgrapes was about things I read on that list we were given a link to. was ONLY about material on another website. They were NEVER directed at anyone's comments or opinions posted in this thread. They were only an opinion/commentary on some suggestions in that list. I still hold to my opinion about those things.

    I have seen many an innocent fan mistreated and misaligned by other fans passing judgment on them for things of so personal a nature as how they dress or what their personal hygiene is (some people have medical conditions that create embarrassing problems for them regarding body odor. They can't help that and the last thing they need is some fan telling them they are going offend an actor because of it).

    Actors are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves once they realise they can speak up. At the recent Columbus convention,fans wanted Michael Shanks to take off his hat. He told them jokingly but firmly 'No' (or rather he said "kiss my a$$"). At the recent Chicago convention when he and CJ were asked for the umpteenth time to do the puff and ruffle he again firmly said no and announced that this had been 'retired' and they did not want to be asked about it again.

    Telling other fans how to dress is going waay too far into someone's personal space and infringing on their privacy. I remember fans being horribly cruel to me when I had to attend the first gatecon wearing a wig because a medical condition was making my hair fall out I figured if I had to wear one, why not have fun with it and wear something punkish looking. The comments about me 'doing it to get attention' were cruel and hurtful (and lies).

    Nothing hurts someone more than making them feel like they are going to offend the actor somehow. This makes for awkward situations for the confused fan and the actor as well.

    Let the actors speak for themselves about what mode of dress, gifts or questions bothers them.

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    I am horribly sorry to hear of your unpleasant experience. I never meant for this thread to result in personal attacks on anyone. But you see, it's THAT kind of behavior I wanted to address. People just don't have any tact or sensitivity any more. And it takes more than a few subtle hints to get the point across. I maintain along with you that we have NO right to judge others by their appearance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GateAngel
    Actors are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves once they realise they can speak up. At the recent Columbus convention,fans wanted Michael Shanks to take off his hat. He told them jokingly but firmly 'No' (or rather he said "kiss my a$$"). At the recent Chicago convention when he and CJ were asked for the umpteenth time to do the puff and ruffle he again firmly said no and announced that this had been 'retired' and they did not want to be asked about it again.
    Okay, so MS and CJ, confident chaps who are veterans of the con circuit and each with a close friend there for moral support, are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. I've seen other actors in other fandoms who aren't naturally confident, who were doing their first ever Q&A or who were onstage alone... and who were really discombobulated by some of the questions asked and by the behaviour of certain people in the audience. There are no minders onstage to lean over and say "don't worry, (s)he's just a harmless weirdo", just the poor worried guest, a horribly inappropriate question and an awkward silence, followed by a bit of stammering, reddening and clear confusion on the guest's part.

    But MS and CJ would have been adept at handling it, so that's okay then

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    I feel for any actor doing the ‘virgin’ con, as they are not really ready for the deep personal and many time rude questions

    In NYC, MS had to restrain him-self from being rude to the kid who asked a very personal, rude and crude question/remark. This is the same kid who took video of CJ in the bathroom.

    I heard the puff and ruffle was retired, since it was getting asked too many times, and the guys, being Gentleman after all, felt it was not nice to their female co-stars at SG. A laugh is funny till someone really feels hurt.

    A lot of times the ‘security’ by the stage is there to get signals from the guest that this ‘fan’ is going too far. Sometimes the Q&A is cut short when a known problem fan is there too long or there is an outstanding issue with them. Yes, Virginia … there is a list.
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    Slightly off-topic, but since it was'n covered at the 1 convention I've been to, I gotta know: what the HECK is this "puff and ruffle" I keep hearing about?

    If it's too off-topic, could someone just PM me the answer?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BackStageJim
    A lot of times the ‘security’ by the stage is there to get signals from the guest that this ‘fan’ is going too far.
    At the German City Con last year the opposite happened. Security had just reached the fan who was ranting at Peter DeLuise instead of asking a question and were about to cut him off. But PdL signalled them to let the fan continue - then he lay down on the floor and rested while the guy continued. Of course PdL had the laughs firmly on his side and made the fan look like the idiot he was.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Feli
    At the German City Con last year the opposite happened. Security had just reached the fan who was ranting at Peter DeLuise instead of asking a question and were about to cut him off. But PdL signalled them to let the fan continue - then he lay down on the floor and rested while the guy continued. Of course PdL had the laughs firmly on his side and made the fan look like the idiot he was.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kelmah
    Slightly off-topic, but since it was'n covered at the 1 convention I've been to, I gotta know: what the HECK is this "puff and ruffle" I keep hearing about?

    If it's too off-topic, could someone just PM me the answer?

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    the puff and ruffle is something the boys used to do. whenever there was a female guest star, they'd be all over her. do you need anything? have you checked out the catering truck? would you like this, would you like that? they'd also 'puff' themselves up, like a male bird does, to strut thier stuff....while they 'ignored' amanda and teryl

    once the ladies realized what they were doing, they got to enjoy watching it happen

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skydiver
    also, because they're from different countries their clothing/hygiene/eating
    habits will be different from yours
    In my experience, hygiene and clothing have nothing to do with nationality, but rather with common sense. There may be the occasional individual who doesn't change clothes or who doesn't shower for three days, but they can be American, British, French, German, Russian or any other nationality. It's not like people from a certain country are "dirtier" than others.
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